First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants to.

Sex therapists prefer to use the term “Involuntary Ejaculation” since the key to controlling it revolves around gaining voluntary control. Premature Ejaculation ranks as one of the top male sex problems.

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The following are some tips and exercises that will assist you in learning to control this problem:

For starters, you might drink a glass of wine before having sex. Alcohol may relax you just enough to delay your ejaculation.  Or there’s the old tried and true practice of masturbating a few hours before making love.  If you “take care of your business” early (Watch “There’s Something About Mary” again), it will take you longer to ejaculate when the time comes to do it with your partner. The best method for reducing the chances of premature ejaculation is one that we mentioned in the previous section - Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze.

Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you’ve forgotten where these muscles are located.  Strong PC muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car-  by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the same way you use your brakes to control speed.  In the broadest terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong orgasms by a simulation of “stopping your urination in midstream”.  Learn the powers of these muscles and how to use them.  They will work wonders in the bedroom!

Desensitization Gel

Out on the market are creams that contain anesthetic gels similar to use in offices to decrease stimulation. Most common are the creams and gel that contain the active ingredient benzocaine. Your mileage may vary on these, as some men feel that they make intercourse less pleasurable.

Topical lotions used to reduce sensitivity in the highly sensitive areas of the penis. It can be presented in a variety of ways, from an all natural liquid roll on to spray on solutions. Desensitizing creams containing local anesthetic agents can also be useful for some men with premature ejaculation. These agents are not approved by the FDA specifically for this use, but they are believed to be of at least some efficacy and are a minimal-risk option for patients. One of lubricant’s numerous unique qualities is its fast start of action. Users have described feeling the tingling sensation as fast as 1 min after application.

Masters and Johnson developed a method called The Squeeze Technique to help with premature ejaculation. It’s fairly simple. When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, withdraw your penis from the vagina.Then place the first 2 fingers of either hand on the underside of the penis, place your thumb on the top, and then squeeze. You can do this yourself, or you can have your partner squeeze the head of the penis between her thumb and fingers. Since your penis is erect, it won’t really hurt if she gives it an intense squeeze.

An old Taoist method for delaying ejaculation is performed by Pressing The Million Dollar Point. This Point is located on your perineum just in front of the anus. You will feel a slight indentation when you push at the right spot. When you approach ejaculation, take your finger and push it up into the Million Dollar Point, all the way to the first joint of your finger.  This will help delay ejaculation by interrupting the ejaculatory reflex. This technique is great because you can use it without having to withdraw your penis from the vagina.

Another simple method is called Scrotal Tugging.As the name implies, you simply pull your testicles away from your body to delay ejaculation.This is accomplished by circling the top of your scrotal sac with your thumb and forefinger, then pulling down firmly. You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual pleasure without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the feelings that precede your orgasm. There is an exercise you can try called The “One to Ten” Approach.

Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate. Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your “Point Of No Return.  Try masturbating. When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate subside. Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times. Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.

Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method (or “Stop-Start” Method). When having sex, if you feel yourself becoming too excited… simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside her.  Then just remain motionless for 15 – 30 seconds.  Wait for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off.